In an encyclopedia of modern ballet, the name of the dancer Marta Graham will stand in a place of honor. It can be called revolutionary. Graham’s dance school and its technique became the basis for modern choreography and influenced the development of ballet all over the world. Agnes de Mille (dancer and choreographer) met Mart Graham after her success of musical show ‘Oklahoma’. She thought that this work was average as compared to her previous works, but she got success from her average work. Agnes de Mille talked to Graham about this and she said-
“There is vitality, a life force, energy, a quickening that is translated through you into action, and because there is only one of you in all of the time, this expression is unique. And if you block it, it will never exist through any other medium and it will be lost. The world will not have it. It is not your business to determine how good it is nor how valuable nor how it compares with other expressions. It is your business to keep it yours clearly and directly, to keep the channel open.”
She taught her that it’s not your job to judge your work; your job is to create and share.
Comparing ourselves to other people is a habit of most of the people. It was fixed in us from childhood. In kindergarten and in the school, teachers set the example of the best boys and girls. Parents expected us to be no worse than the best in the group, school, and college. We were always compared with our neighbors, with relatives, close friends.
Comparison links to dependency on others
When we begin to compare ourselves, what we compare becomes dependent on how we evaluate and perceive others around us. If in the showroom the manager sells cars more than all others, for example, 100 cars per month, he experiences an emotional rise and pride in himself. In the showroom, a newcomer is set to work, which starts selling 110 cars a month. And although the first manager sells the same 100 machines a month, as before, he blames himself for not being able to do anything in this life, his self-esteem falls, and he begins to envy the newcomer. Comparison only creates a false sense of importance, and it is better to avoid it.
The first thing you need to do to stop comparing yourself to others is to love yourself as you are. You may think that you are imperfect, but that’s what makes us human. Falling in love with yourself, you will love your life. You will find inner peace and tranquility, accepting yourself with all your shortcomings.
Being yourself does not mean living in a shell without sticking out into the outside world, and being unable to improve your life. To be yourself is to set achievable goals for yourself and go to them.